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Female Orgasm

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Healthy Sexuality Guide

Bedsider

Bedsider.org is “an online birth control support network for women 18-29 operated by The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unwanted Pregnancy, a private non-profit organization….to help women find the method of birth control that’s right for them and learn how to use it consistently and effectively.” (http://bedsider.org/?locale=en)

Bedsider is a sponsor of Emory’s Sexual Health Advocacy Group (SHAG), supplying them with cool t-shirts, condoms, posters, trivia, and birth control information. Here are just a few highlights of the website – check it out:

-          Birth Control Method Explorer: http://bedsider.org/methods#effectiveness

  • Bedsider ranks the different methods of birth control by effectiveness, STI prevention, which are the most “party-ready,” and which methods you have to worry about the least in the heat of the moment). They also give you information about cost, side effects, and typical use vs. perfect use!

-          Text message reminders: http://bedsider.org/en/reminders

  • Bedsider will text you reminders when it is time to take your birth control Pill, change your Patch, switch our your Nuva Ring, or make your next Depo Shot reminder! The texts are free, you pick the time, and they are fun and witty!

-          Guy’s Guide to Birth Control: http://bedsider.org/en/guys_guide

  • Bedsider knows how important it is for the guy to understand how birth control works – the more informed, the better! Watch these short, funny, and informative clips that quickly sum up how many different methods of birth control work. They are great resources for guys and girls alike!

-          Common FAQs: http://bedsider.org/en/questions

  • Have a question that you don’t know the answer to? Check Bedsider’s FAQ page – someone else probably had the same question!

Female Orgasm

(Adapted from Brown University Health Promotion: http://brown.edu/Student_Services/Health_Services/Health_Education/sexual_health/sexuality/female_orgasm.php)

Orgasm: What is it?

An orgasm is a (usually pleasurable) physical reflex. An orgasm occurs when the muscles that were tightened during sexual arousal, relax, and the body returns to its pre-arousal state. During sexual arousal, there is increased blood flow to the genitals and tensing of muscles throughout the body. Orgasm is the relaxing of the muscles via a series of rhythmic contractions. For women, contractions occur in the lower part of the vagina, in the uterus, anus, and pelvic floor. About 10 percent of women also ejaculate fluid from the urethra during orgasm.

What does an orgasm feel like?

Everyone experiences orgasm a bit differently – common feelings include changes in breathing, a feeling of warmth, sweating, body vibrations, altered consciousness, or an urge to moan or cry out. During orgasm, endorphins are released into the bloodstream and these chemicals might make you feel happy, giddy, flushed, warm or sleepy.

Some women have orgasms but don’t realize it. You might think that what you are experiencing is too mild to be an orgasm or otherwise doesn’t fit your idea of what an orgasm should feel like. It can be important to focus on what you do feel – remember, everybody is different!

What if I’ve never had an orgasm?

Many women — about one out of three — have trouble reaching orgasm when having sex with a partner, so you are not alone! This is even more common for younger women who are just beginning to explore sexual relationships. Getting to know your own body and preferences will make sex more pleasurable and can help you discover what brings you to orgasm.

One way to try and experience orgasm is by figuring out what type of touch and stimulation gives you pleasure. Generally speaking, masturbation is the most direct route to an orgasm. Most women who reach orgasm with a partner have also experienced an orgasm from masturbation. Each woman’s body responds differently to stimulation. Experiment with different levels and rhythms of touching and pressure. Experiment with stimulating your clitoris and vagina with your fingers, with a vibrator, or with a stream of water. Getting to know your body is the key.

It can also be important to consider whether there are other factors which might be making it more difficult for you to have an orgasm. Concern that you won’t have an orgasm, even though you are aroused, might be one barrier. Taking the focus off of having an orgasm and just paying attention to your feelings of arousal and pleasure can be helpful in these situations. Try to concentrate on actual physical sensations rather than thoughts.

How can I orgasm with a partner?

Most women experience orgasm through clitoral stimulation rather than through vaginal penetration. So if you are having difficulty reaching orgasm with a partner, try clitoral stimulation during, before, or after vaginal intercourse or oral sex. Like we mentioned earlier, masturbation can also be an important step in learning to be orgasmic with a partner. Once you have discovered what type of touch and stimulation you enjoy, you will be better able to give your partner(s) helpful directions.

The clitoris plays an important role in an orgasm. During arousal, the clitoris swells and changes position. The blood vessels throughout the pelvic area also swell, causing engorgement and creating a feeling of fullness and sexual sensitivity. You or your partner can stimulate your clitoris in a number of different ways — by rubbing, sucking, body pressure, using a vibrator. Although some women touch the glans of the clitoris to become aroused, for others it can be so sensitive that direct touching is uncomfortable or painful, even with lubrication. Also, focusing directly on the clitoris for a long time may cause the pleasurable sensations to disappear. Knowing your body and what you like will allow for maximum pleasure.

Another option is oral sex - oral sex can be one of the most effective ways for some women to reach orgasm. Having your partner use their mouth and tongue to stimulate the vulva in general and the clitoris in particular can be very arousing and can help you to orgasm. The sensitivity of your vulva and clitoris will determine what type of oral stimulation you enjoy and are most responsive to, so there is no one approach that works for everyone and new partners will need to learn about each other’s bodies and preferences. Using dental dams when engaging in oral sex will allow you to be more relaxed, knowing that you and your partner are practicing safer sex – they also come in cool flavors, and you still feel the stimulation!

Your clitoris can also be stimulated during vaginal intercourse when the clitoris is rubbed against the partner’s pubic bone, which can be easiest if you are on top. Leaning forward and down a little can help you get in the right position to experience this. If your partner is on top they can position themselves high enough so that their pubic bone presses against your clitoral area. You or your partner can also stimulate your clitoris with fingers or a vibrator during vaginal intercourse to help bring you to orgasm. 

For some women, the outer third of their vagina is also very sensitive. When this area is stimulated during intercourse or other vaginal penetration, some women will experience orgasm without clitoral stimulation.

Some things you and your partner might try to help you reach orgasm:

  • Focus on touching, kissing, and caressing each other to heighten arousal.
  • Experiment with various positions, particularly those that stimulate the clitoris, and with manual and oral stimulation of your vulva and clitoris.
  • Relax and take it slow.
  • Talk with each other about what feels good and how you both like to be touched.

 

How do I talk with my partner(s) about orgasm and sexual pleasure?

It's important to be clear about what feels good and what doesn't, and what you do and don't want to do – your partner(s) can’t read your mind! Orgasms become easier as you develop more knowledge of what is pleasing to you sexually, and as you become more comfortable telling your partners about what you like and don’t like.

If this conversation seems like it might be awkward, remember that your partner(s) will be glad to know how to please you. Each person’s body, experience and preferences for sexual pleasure are different. Telling your partner what works for you is not a judgment of their skills or abilities in bed. And having this “conversation” can be as simple as offering one or two word directions like “more,” “slower,” “faster,” “lower,” or “right there.” You can also use non-verbal communication like taking your partner’s hand and showing them what types of pressure, pace and placement works for you.

You and your partner can also undertake a little research together. Learning about sex together can be a non-threatening (and fun) way to address the issue.

What are Kegel exercises, and how do I do them?

Kegel exercises were developed by Dr. Arnold Kegel to help women strengthen their pelvic muscles. These exercises can help increase the intensity of your orgasms.

  • When you're peeing, clench your muscles to stop the flow of urine for about four seconds. Then release those same muscles to let the urine flow again. These are your pelvic floor muscles; these are the muscles you'll be exercising when you do Kegels. If you want to check and make sure that you're using the right muscles, put a finger or two into your vagina. Tighten the muscles. If you can feel your fingers being squeezed (even just a little), then you've located the right muscles.
  • You can vary the exercise by holding the contraction for a count of three and then releasing it, doing fast short holds, or a mix of long and short holds.
  • Kegel during sex for added pleasure for you and your partner.

As with any exercise, results won’t be immediate, but over time (probably about 6-8 weeks) you will notice a difference.

Are men’s and women’s orgasms the same?

The physical process is actually pretty similar - for both men and women, an orgasm produces rapid muscle contractions usually in the genital and anal area, and sometimes throughout the body. These contractions, in the sexual and reproductive organs, the muscles of the pelvic floor, and the anus occur at the very same intervals (0.8 seconds) for both women and men. Men average four to six orgasmic contractions. Women average six to ten.

Ejaculation with orgasm is much more common in men than in women. Most of the time, a man will have an orgasm at the same time he ejaculates, but occasionally men have an orgasm without ejaculating, or ejaculate without having an orgasm. About 10 percent of women ejaculate —a clear fluid spurts from the urethra during intense sexual excitement or during orgasm. This fluid isn’t urine. Instead it is very like the fluid (found in semen) produced by the prostate gland in men. In women this fluid comes from the Skene’s glands in the wall of the urethra.

You may have heard that it takes a lot longer for women to reach orgasm than it does for men. This is not entirely true. During masturbation, women and men reach orgasm in very similar amounts of time. On average, women reach orgasm in a little less than four minutes. For men the average time is between two and three minutes. The difference in the time it takes women and men to reach orgasm during foreplay and vaginal intercourse is greater. On average, it takes women 10-20 minutes to reach orgasm. Men reach orgasm after 7-14 minutes overall, but average two to three minutes after beginning intercourse.

What about Transgender students and orgasm?

If you are a transgender student you may have a hard time finding information that speaks in language that reflects how you feel about your body. If you feel that your biological body doesn't reflect your gender identity, you may use different terms for body parts than those we have used on this page. No matter how you label your body parts, if you are having difficulty achieving orgasm, taking steps, like some of those described above, to discover what kinds of touch give you pleasure and sharing this information with your partner(s) can be helpful. You can visit the sexuality section of Trans-Health.com for further information, including the effect of hormones and surgery on libido and orgasm.

More resources

Go Ask Alice 
This Q&A site from Columbia University has answers to many orgasm questions and is a great source for sexual health and sexual pleasure information. You can also submit your own questions.

www.the-clitoris.com
This site offers extensive information on female sexuality and sexual response.

Sex Toys
This page of our site has information about sex toys and links to sex toy websites.

American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists       
AASECT offers a directory of certified sex therapists as well as links to sexuality resources

 

(From Brown University Health Promotion: http://brown.edu/Student_Services/Health_Services/Health_Education/sexual_health/sexuality/female_orgasm.php)

Erectile Dysfunction

(Adapted from Brown University Health Promotion: http://brown.edu/Student_Services/Health_Services/Health_Education/sexual_health/sexuality/erectile_dysfunction.php)

 

Erectile Dysfunction: What is it?

Erectile dysfunction (ED) is the inability to get or maintain an erection 25% or more of the time. Some men with ED find they are completely unable to achieve an erection, while others have an inconsistent ability to achieve an erection, and still others experience only brief erections. ED is a frustrating condition that can have physical or psychological causes. ED might be the first sign of an underlying health condition that needs treatment, so seeking medical evaluation is important.

 

How common is it?

Erectile dysfunction affects 30 million men in the United States. The problem can occur at any age, but the older someone gets, the greater the chance that of a health problem that results in ED. According to the National Institutes of Health (NIH), approximately 5% of 40-year-old men and between 15 and 25% of 65-year-old men experience ED on a long-term basis.

In younger people, erectile dysfunction is less common and when it does occur is more likely to have a psychological cause such as stress or performance anxiety. Still, young people are seeking treatment for this and other sexual problems in increasing numbers.

Okay, so I’m not sure if I have ED but I am having some difficulties…is that normal?

The occasional failure to get or maintain an erection, which lasts long enough to have sex, can occur for a variety of reasons, including drinking too much alcohol or being very tired. The inability to get or maintain an erection less than 20% of the time is not unusual.

How does an erection occur?

For an erection to occur, several parts of the body must work together. The brain sends messages to control the nerves, hormone levels, blood flow and muscles that cause an erection. If anything interferes with these messages, or if any part of the system doesn’t function correctly, an erection won’t occur.

 

What are the psychological causes of erectile dysfunction?

A number of things can interfere with sexual feelings and lead to ED or make it worse. These can include:

  • depression
  • anxiety
  • history of physical, emotional, or sexual abuse
  • stress
  • fatigue
  • poor communication or conflict with your partner

Erectile dysfunction as a result of a psychological cause tends to develop rapidly and be related to a recent situation or event. You may find you are able to have an erection in some circumstances but not in others. If you are generally able to experience or maintain an erection when you first wake up in the morning this can suggest that the problem is psychological rather than physical.

 

What are the physical causes of erectile dysfunction?

While thoughts and emotions always play a role in getting an erection, erectile dysfunction is most often caused by something physical, such as a chronic health problem or the side effects of a medication. The physical and psychological causes of erectile dysfunction interact. For instance, a minor physical problem that slows sexual response may cause anxiety about maintaining an erection. The resulting anxiety can worsen erectile dysfunction.

A variety of physical risk factors can contribute to erectile dysfunction. Factors that may be present for younger men include:

  • Substance abuse. Chronic use of alcohol, marijuana or other drugs can cause erectile dysfunction and decreased sexual drive.
  • Stress, anxiety or depression. Other psychological conditions also contribute to some cases of erectile dysfunction.
  • Smoking. Smoking can cause erectile dysfunction because it restricts blood flow to veins and arteries. People who smoke cigarettes are much more likely to develop erectile dysfunction.
  • Having a chronic health condition. Diseases of the lungs, liver, kidneys, heart, nerves, arteries or veins can lead to erectile dysfunction. So can endocrine system disorders, particularly diabetes.
  • Taking certain medications. A wide range of drugs — including antidepressants, antihistamines and medications to treat high blood pressure, pain and prostate cancer — can cause erectile dysfunction by interfering with nerve impulses or blood flow to the penis. Tranquilizers and sleeping aids also can pose a problem.
  • Certain surgeries or injuries. Damage to the nerves that control erections can cause erectile dysfunction. This damage can occur if you injure your pelvic area or spinal cord. Surgery to treat bladder, rectal or prostate cancer can increase your risk of erectile dysfunction.
  • Prolonged bicycling. Over an extended period, pressure from a bicycle seat has been shown to compress nerves and blood flow to the penis, leading to temporary erectile dysfunction and penile numbness.
  • Metabolic syndrome. This syndrome is characterized by unhealthy cholesterol and triglyceride levels, high blood pressure, and insulin resistance

 

When should I seek treatment?

Whether the cause is physical factors or psychological factors or a combination of both, erectile dysfunction can become a source of mental and emotional stress for you — and your partner(s). If erectile dysfunction is more than a temporary, short-term problem, see your medical provider.

Try to communicate openly and honestly about your condition, especially with your partner(s). Treatment is often more successful if partners address the issue together.

What treatments are available?

Although most people with penises experience episodes of erectile dysfunction from time to time, you can take these steps to decrease the likelihood of occurrences:

  • Exercise regularly.
  • Reduce stress.
  • Get enough sleep.
  • Get help for anxiety or depression.
  • Limit or avoid the use of alcohol.
  • Avoid recreational drugs, including marijuana.
  • Stop or reduce smoking. 
  • See your medical provider for regular checkups and medical screening tests.
  • Work with your medical provider to manage conditions that can lead to erectile dysfunction, such as diabetes and heart disease.

For psychological causes, seeking treatment from a mental health professional or from a sex therapist can be very helpful.

For physical causes, a wide variety of treatments are available, depending on the specific physical issue. The first step is often to try ED medications, like Viagra, since these help most men. Depending on your diagnosis, other treatments range from changing your prescription drugs to hormone replacement therapy, antidepressant therapy, and devices, medications or implants to produce erections.

 

Resources

American Urological Association            
This site offers information on erectile dysfunction, including treatment options, as well as information on other sexual function issues.

American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists
AASECT offers a directory of certified sex therapists as well as links to sexuality resources.

Sexual Health Network 
The Sexual Health Network site includes articles and Q&A sections on erectile dysfunction and other sexual health topics.

(Adapted from Brown University Health Promotion: http://brown.edu/Student_Services/Health_Services/Health_Education/sexual_health/sexuality/erectile_dysfunction.php)

Premature Ejaculation

(From Brown University Health Promotion: http://brown.edu/Student_Services/Health_Services/Health_Education/sexual_health/sexuality/premature_ejaculation.php)

 

What is premature ejaculation?

Many men sometimes ejaculate sooner than they, or their partner, would like. If it just happens occasionally, it's probably not something to worry about. However, if you regularly ejaculate sooner than you and your partner would like, such as before intercourse begins or soon afterward, you may have a condition known as premature ejaculation.

 

What is the average time until ejaculation?

In assessing whether you have premature ejaculation, it can be important to ask whether your own or your partner’s stamina expectation is realistic. Keep in mind that the average time from insertion to ejaculation is less than three minutes. If your partner is a woman, remember that female orgasm doesn’t occur automatically as a result of prolonged intercourse. Surveys tell us that only about one fourth to one half of women regularly orgasm during intercourse.

 

How common is it?

Premature ejaculation affects about one out of three men. It is the most common male sexual problem, particularly among younger men.

 

What are the causes?

Premature ejaculation can have both psychological and biological causes.

 

Psychological causes

Early sexual experiences may establish a pattern which is difficult to change. First experiences of sexual intercourse often involve excitement mixed with anxiety and a demand to perform quickly in order to avoid being discovered. Your focus might be on your performance rather than on the pleasurable and erotic aspects of the experience. Most males reach orgasm very quickly the first time they have intercourse. Although most men also learn to slow down, to enjoy their own and their partner’s pleasure, and become comfortable and confident with sexual intercourse, early ejaculation continues to be a problem for about 30 percent of men.

Many men with premature ejaculation also have problems with anxiety — either specifically about sexual performance, or anxiety caused by other issues. In general, linking sex and performance, rather than sex and pleasure, can be problematic. In developing ejaculatory control, you might find that it is best to focus on what would bring pleasure to you and to your partner. It can also help to think of ejaculatory control as a skill that you and your partner develop together to enhance mutual satisfaction.

Premature ejaculation can also be related to erectile dysfunction. Men who are anxious about obtaining or maintaining their erection during sexual intercourse may form a pattern of rushing to ejaculate and have difficulty changing that pattern.

 

Biological causes

A number of biological factors may contribute to premature ejaculation, including:

  • Abnormal hormone levels
  • Insufficient concentration of the neurotransmitter serotonin
  • Abnormal reflex activity of the ejaculatory system
  • Certain thyroid problems
  • Inflammation and infection of the prostate or urethra
  • Inherited traits

Rarely, premature ejaculation is caused by:

  • Nervous system damage resulting from surgery or trauma
  • Withdrawal from narcotics or a drug called trifluoperazine (Stelazine), used to treat anxiety and other mental health problems

Whether the cause is psychological or biological, treatments including medications, counseling and learning sexual techniques to delay ejaculation can improve sex for you and your partner(s).

What are the treatment options?

Treatment for premature ejaculation can include behavioral therapy (including learning specific sexual techniques), certain medications and counseling or psychotherapy. Often, a combination approach works best. 80-90% of men are able to learn better control through treatment.

In some cases, behavioral therapy may involve simple steps such as masturbating an hour or two before intercourse to help you delay ejaculation during sex or stimulating your partner to a state of high arousal before you have your genitals touched, so that your orgasms can be achieved closer to the same time.

There are two specific behavioral methods which can help you develop ejaculatory control:

  • The stop and start method helps you learn to recognize when climax is approaching and to slow down or reduce stimulation in order to extend the time until ejaculation. If you find yourself nearing climax, withdraw your penis from your partner or otherwise reduce stimulation and allow yourself to relax enough to prevent ejaculation. By starting and stopping sexual stimulation and learning to notice when climax is imminent, you can learn to prolong the sex act.
  • A second method known as the squeeze technique also helps you gain control over the timing of your ejaculation. To use the squeeze technique, you begin sexual activity as usual, including stimulation of the penis, until you feel almost ready to ejaculate. Have your partner squeeze the end of your penis, at the point where the head joins the shaft, and maintain the squeeze for several seconds, until the urge to ejaculate passes. After the squeeze is released, wait for about 30 seconds, then go back to sex play. (You may notice that squeezing the penis causes it to become less erect, but when sexual stimulation is resumed, the full erection returns.) If you again feel you're about to ejaculate, have your partner repeat the squeeze process. By repeating this as many times as necessary, you can reach the point of entering your partner without ejaculating. You can also use this technique without a partner by masturbating and then applying the squeeze yourself as described above. After a few practice sessions, the feeling of knowing how to delay ejaculation may become a habit that no longer requires the squeeze technique.

Medication is another option for treatment and generally most effective when used with behavioral methods. Certain antidepressants and topical anesthetics can be used to treat premature ejaculation. You may need to try different medications or doses before you and your doctor find a treatment that works for you.

A side effect of certain antidepressants is delayed orgasm. Doctors sometimes suggest men who have premature ejaculation can take antidepressants to benefit from this specific side effect. You may not need to take these medications every day to prevent premature ejaculation. Taking a low dose several hours before you plan to have sexual intercourse may be enough to improve your symptoms. Other side effects of these antidepressants can include nausea, dry mouth, drowsiness and decreased libido.

 

When should I seek medical advice?

Talk with a doctor if you ejaculate sooner than you and your partner wish during most sexual encounters. Although you may feel you should be able to fix the problem on your own, you may need treatment to help you achieve and sustain a satisfying sex life. Most men will experience premature ejaculation at some point in their lives, especially when they are young, but if the problem persists then you shouldn’t hesitate to seek medical help.

 

Additional Resources

American Urological Association 
This site offers information on premature ejaculation, including treatment options, as well as information on other sexual function issues. You can also download a brochure titled The Management of Premature Ejaculation: A Patient's Guide.

American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists 
AASECT offers a directory of certified sex therapists as well as links to sexuality resources.

Sexual Health Network
The Sexual Health Network site includes articles and Q&A sections on premature ejaculation and other sexual health topics.

 

(From Brown University Health Promotion: http://brown.edu/Student_Services/Health_Services/Health_Education/sexual_health/sexuality/premature_ejaculation.php)

Sex Toys

(Adapted from Brown University Health Promotion: http://brown.edu/Student_Services/Health_Services/Health_Education/sexual_health/sexuality/sex_toys.php)

 

What are sex toys?

Sex toys can be an exciting way to spice up your sexual life, whether you are using them by yourself or with a partner. There are many misconceptions about sex toys – the truth is, people of all types use sex toys! Some choose to use them when they are alone, on their sexual partners, or on themselves while partners are present. Whatever you choose, it’s important to understand how to best clean the toys and how to protect yourself against STIs if you choose to share sex toys with others.

Sex toys can range from objects that tickle and vibrate, to various products that are inserted into the vagina or anus. Some sex toys are meant to be used more gently, while others are used for sexual acts involving dominance and submission (BDSM) such as restraints, blindfolds, and whips. Some examples of sex toys are vibrators, feathers, dildos, harnesses, butt plugs, cock rings, and anal beads.

How can I bring sex toys into my relationship?

Sometimes it’s hard to communicate our sexual desires to our partners, especially when wanting to bring something new into a sexual relationship. Some people may feel threatened by the thought of having sex toys added to their sexual life or they have stereotypes about who uses sex toys. Honesty and open communication are the best strategies for talking with sexual partners about sex toys. Talk with your partner so they understand where you’re coming from, what you’re interested in doing, and how you will respect their boundaries, in order for sex toys to be a healthy, pleasurable part of your relationship.

What’s the best way to use sex toys?

No matter what sex toy you choose to use or how you choose to use it, there are a few things to keep in mind to make the experience pleasurable and help protect yourself from STIs.

  • Before using the toy check, for any imperfections, including rough seams, tears, or cracks. If the toy has any of these imperfections, do not use it!
  • Using lubrication is a great way to help enhance the pleasure and safety of sex toys. Ask your salesperson which lube is best for the toy or follow the instructions that come with the toy. For example, silicone lubes break down silicone toys, so do not use silicone lube with toys made from silicone. Flavored lubes may cause yeast infections for some females because the sugar can disrupt the balance of pH in the vagina. NEVER use oil-based lubes with condoms, because it will break down latex condoms and dental dams, which will increase your risk for contracting STIs.
  • If sharing sex toys, such as dildos, butt plugs, or vibrators, use condoms and dental dams to help prevent the spread of STIs. If switching the toy to another person, make sure to use a different condom or dental dam. Remember, soap alone is not effective for removing STI bacteria or viruses from the toy.
  • Don’t insert a sex toy in the mouth or vagina if it has been used in the anus without a condom or without being washed properly. This could spread bacteria and viruses and cause infections in the urinary tract (for females) or intestines. If a condom was used with the sex toy, replace the condom with a new one before inserting the toy in the mouth or vagina.
  • If it hurts, stop! If you are using toys with a sexual partner, earn trust with one another. If you want to try again, relax and add extra lube if needed.

(Adapted from Brown University Health Promotion: http://brown.edu/Student_Services/Health_Services/Health_Education/sexual_health/sexuality/sex_toys.php)

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LGBTQ Resources

On-campus resources

Office of LGBT Life

-   DUC Room 232E

-   404-727-0272

-   *support for LGBTQ students through support, space, programming, and advocacy*

Office of Health Promotion

-   1525 Clifton Road, 1st floor

-   404-727-7551

-   *safer sex materials, support for student organizations, mini-courses (ex. Sexpert), etc*

 

Local Organizations

Someone Cares

-    Provides a discussion group for young black gay and bisexual men

-    http://www.someonecaresatl.org/

-    Contact person: Antonio Williams: antoniowilliams@someonecaresatl.org

Atlanta Coalition for LGBTQ Youth (ACFLY)

-   Service provider coalition that offers resources

-   https://www.facebook.com/pages/Atlanta-Coalition-For-LGBTQ-Youth/262885297199537?sk=info&tab=page_info

-   Contact person: Emily Brown: emily@georgiaequality.org

AID Atlanta/Evolution Project

-   Offers various activities for young black gay and bisexual men

-   www.aidatlanta.org

-   Contact person: Larry Walker: larry.walker@aidatlanta.org

PFLAG

-   Resources for parents of LGBT people

-    http://www.pflagatl.org/

Resources for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Youth: Select Organizations, Web Sites, Videos

http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/publications-a-z/727-resources-for-gay-lesbian-bisexual-and-transgender-youth-select-organizations-web-sites-videos

You're So Sexy When You Aren't Transmitting STD's is a sexual health comic book created for a gender and sexual orientation inclusive audience, complete with a condom on the back cover and pertinent information on communication, consent, barriers, sexually transmitted diseases, and contraception. Not only does this book address major aspects of sexual health, but it does so in a funny, easily accessible way.  It is my great hope that this book will soon reach a wide audience through the efforts of many colleges, universities, and other health-oriented organizations. - Isabella Rotman, author and illustrator.

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